We have started a segment allowing potential candidates to ask questions that will be answered directly by our CEO, Darcy Swift. This month’s question is:
QUESTION: There has never been any real reason, but I have always felt like my manager doesn’t like me. She isn’t mean, but just shows a complete disinterest in me compared to my co-workers. I have always thought this was in my head until the other day when I overheard her telling a another manager she doesn’t like me. She said I am a good worker but I’m not the type of person she would be friends with outside of work. This hurt a little but more than that, I feel like since I know she doesn’t like me, I am less likely to be chosen for a promotion or raise. Should I be concerned? Am I over reacting? What should I do about this?
ANSWER: It never feels good to know that someone you respect doesn’t like you. However, if they have respect for you, in a job setting that may be okay. With that said, there are a few ways you can handle this type of situation depending on what you want the overall outcome to be.
First of all, remember this is a job and not a social situation. While it may be nice to make friends, that is not ultimately why you are there. If you feel as thought you can get through your work days without this information affecting your performance or future then just let it go. However, if you feel like your bosses feelings towards you will ultimately cause you to perform at a lower level or if you feel like it’s affecting your opportunity for growth, you can always confront her and try to work it out. Ask her why she feels you won’t be friends, your worries about being overlooked for opportunities, and if there is some common ground you can find between the two of you. Who knows? She might realize she was mistaken about her feelings towards you.
If that does not work and you still feel like her attitude towards you is directly affecting your growth opportunities, you can always go to her supervisor and work it out there. Maybe getting another party involved will help clear up the issue.
If you have a question you want answered, please contact us here. We will feature one frequently asked question a month.
We have started a segment allowing potential candidates to ask questions that will be answered directly by our CEO, Darcy Swift. This month’s question is:
QUESTION: There has never been any real reason, but I have always felt like my manager doesn’t like me. She isn’t mean, but just shows a complete disinterest in me compared to my co-workers. I have always thought this was in my head until the other day when I overheard her telling a another manager she doesn’t like me. She said I am a good worker but I’m not the type of person she would be friends with outside of work. This hurt a little but more than that, I feel like since I know she doesn’t like me, I am less likely to be chosen for a promotion or raise. Should I be concerned? Am I over reacting? What should I do about this?
ANSWER: It never feels good to know that someone you respect doesn’t like you. However, if they have respect for you, in a job setting that may be okay. With that said, there are a few ways you can handle this type of situation depending on what you want the overall outcome to be.
First of all, remember this is a job and not a social situation. While it may be nice to make friends, that is not ultimately why you are there. If you feel as thought you can get through your work days without this information affecting your performance or future then just let it go. However, if you feel like your bosses feelings towards you will ultimately cause you to perform at a lower level or if you feel like it’s affecting your opportunity for growth, you can always confront her and try to work it out. Ask her why she feels you won’t be friends, your worries about being overlooked for opportunities, and if there is some common ground you can find between the two of you. Who knows? She might realize she was mistaken about her feelings towards you.
If that does not work and you still feel like her attitude towards you is directly affecting your growth opportunities, you can always go to her supervisor and work it out there. Maybe getting another party involved will help clear up the issue.
If you have a question you want answered, please contact us here. We will feature one frequently asked question a month.