The job market is tricky and often in order to land the perfect job (or get your foot in the door if you’re new to the industry) you are going to need some help. Many reach out to their professional network, friends, family or a staffing service to assist them in their search. When you are asking others for help, you may not always get what you want or expect. However, the way you respond to those that try to help is so so important for future success. Below are the top etiquette tips when searching for a job.

Keep it Professional

Be mindful of how you speak to the people helping you find a job. You may not get what you were expecting but keep in mind that these people did not have to try and help you. Responding with frustration, anger, malice or anything else other than complete professionalism will definitely not encourage these people to keep trying on your behalf. Many industries are like small towns, everyone knows everyone and they all talk. If others view you as difficult or rude it’s likely that they will not be willing to go to bat for you in the future and will let others know what they think as well. No matter what the situation is, don’t bite the hand that feeds you. There’s a good chance you may lose your meal ticket.

Be Truthful

The last thing someone needs when trying to find you a job is a surprise. If there is something that could keep you from qualifying for a job , ( previous conviction, messy exit from previous job, etc.) your recruiter or professional connection needs to know about it. They may be able to talk to the manager and help you get a foot in the door. If they don’t know, then when it comes up there may not be anything they can do at that point.

Check In & Follow Up

One of the main things I tell every candidate is to be sure you are regularly checking in and following up. Even if there is not a position available right then minute, there is a chance something may come in that you are perfect for and you miss out because you are not letting people know you are still available. If you are working with a staffing agency, do not wait for them to call you- take your future into your own hands and be sure you are calling weekly to let them know you are still available. There are a lot of candidates that come in weekly looking for a job and you can’t expect that you are always the first person they will think of for the job. If you’re checking in weekly and a position comes in, you will be at the top of their minds to consider. The same goes with following up after an interview. Be sure you call or email the manager (or your recruiter) after the interview to see what next steps should be moving forward.

The job search process can be stressful and aggravating at times, especially if things aren’t going as you had hoped. Remember to stay positive and treat the people helping you with gratitude and professionalism. This will speak volumes for your character and help you keep these people as allies in the industry for years to come.